The answer is “Prayer”

Life is unpredictable. But, then if it wasn’t wouldn’t it be boring.

I got my calling a few years back, it wasn’t something i was looking for but it just ordained upon me. My path to enlightenment was not easy, but whatever i gained on the way to my path was precious.

Before i turned 25, i understood the basic concepts of life. I felt  privileged that i did not have to go around my entire adult life waiting to understand what my life was about.

I have so far concluded on the following :

1. This world is going to be a test, a test of my patience, of my well being of my endurance, of my strength. Its just a path that God has laid down upon me and i am supposed to walk through the path with faith, hope and love.
2. There will be nothing in your life that will not make sense. Everything that is happening to you or has happened to you is because its for you to reach a ultimate goal. Your destiny is pre-determined, you just have to go through some rather shitty things to get it.
3. Everything that you have, is to earned. You are not born privileged, Don’t act like one. If you want something to last, earn it, own it and be proud of it.
4. Love is something that is a blessing from God. So are other emotions like compassion, honesty, passion etc. You have them in your heart as a sign of blessing. You will see many people walking around on this earth, and they do not feel pain when someone is hurt, they hurt other people instead, they are cruel to animals, anything negative in life which you have in your heart is also a test. If you do not have belief, you will continue to have the wrong things in your life.
5. Everything in this world is temporary. We always remember the extreme things in our lives,  the happiness and the grief. Both are temporary and fade over time. So, when your happy; Pray for thankfulness and that the happiness in your life stays for a long time. When your grieving or sad, that is also temporary and it will fade over time. Today might be the worst day of your life. But, tomorrow its going to be better. Because nothing is permanent and change is inevitable.
6. Whatever you do in life, especially when you are unfair or when you do the wrong things in life, you have to answer to them some day or other. Your life is going to be a mix of good and bad. For every good deed, you will be rewarded. For every bad deed, believe me you will pay for it.
7. Be nice to people, coz thats the only way you can change the world.

So far, thats all i can remember. I use them with the people i mentor in their every day life. Do you have any that i can add above. Do share in comments.

Its been a good week. Praying that it gets better every day from now….

 

 

 

Aging

I am the middle child of my parents, and yes i do have the “middle child syndrome”.

Yes, that actually exists. But currently it does not matter which number child i am. What matters is that i love my parents. Like any other child, what matters is the love i have for them like any other child.

Many times we forget that as we are growing older, your parents are getting older too. And with that comes the added complications of sickness. Health issues related to their age. Recently, i have been scared of losing my parents to illnesses, i am getting nightmares about it. And i have no idea what to do about them.

I would not know what to do if i lost any of my parents, since they are the pillars of who i am. I am paranoid, but i love them too much to lose them.

So every single day i pray to God, Please give my parents good health and a long life. Make me capable to take care of them, let them have no hardships in the remainder of their life. That’s all i ask.

I have been blessed to have a loving childhood, a stable home, loving parents. Those things are rare at this time in the world. So if you have what i had, you are truly blessed.

Money, jobs, friends, partners will come and go. But the true values that your parents instill in you will never go, they might fade but they will never disappear.

 

 

 

“Social Media”

“We see, what we seek out”.

Recently, i was pretty hurt by someone making a certain judgement about me being materialistic. And this was on a social media platform, which irked me even more. It bothered me because thats not what i was trying to portray or even hint about. The comment was not even by a stranger but by a friend who i have known for years. His judgement of me was completely wrong and it showed me in bad light in front of people who i knew personally and professionally.

I have been very careful with what i post on social media, its usually about my life or my experiences or about other people’s experience. I have been subject to some snid remarks on them that i preach way too much. Probably i do, but its more towards a positive approach to life than negative. Through out social media, no matter what  you post, you will see certain people make offensive, derogatory or even sexist remarks. But, why would people do that ? Do they know you or what are they actually seeing. Thats when another person’s perception comes in. They see what they want to see, although thats not what you are supposed to see. Many people post selfies, but people are more interested in the background of the selfie than the person itself. They find faults and errors, so that it makes them feel better. Because currently everyone seems to be interested in bringing people down than helping anyone go up.

Insecurities rule, Power rules, Money corrupts, Greed prevails.

People might end spend their entire life in ignorance, whereas some are enlightened at some point in their life, some earlier and some later. In an era where everything is so connected, you can spread Light around you or darkness, Its your choice.

You have a right to your opinion, as long as that opinion is a constructive feedback its fine. Most countries talk about right of speech which is the 1st amendment right, but there should be a line drawn. People misuse that right and say whatever they want without realizing what is the effect of their words. That is ignorance, not free speech.

My mother always emphasized on the quote:

“If you have something good to say, please share. If your going to say something bad, please shut up”.

 

Struggle with illness

Its been tough few weeks. But long ago i realized one thing is that doctors aren’t always right.

They discourage you more than encourage. They have less hope than the patients, probably coz they do not have much faith in themselves (thats what i would assume).

Over the years, i realized that the people working in the medical profession need to be kept on their toes or badger them when they are doing something incorrectly. Usually its when they are sticking a needle in your vein.

Due to the high number of patients in the hospitals, they miss out a lot of things regarding care of the patients. There have been instances when patients have died due to negligence from the nurses or doctors.

So its imperative that you have someone with the patient to have a over-all look out for your loved ones when they are in the hospital. Because nurses miss out a lot and doctors look only at reports and see a patient just once a day. You cant really tell a lot with that.

Take care of your loved ones.

 

 

Being single

Its not difficult to be single on its own. What is difficult, is the people around you who make it difficult. 

I find single life liberating, i make my own choices and although i make reasonable and responsible choices. I like the fact that i can make it by myself without checking with another person.

Now what does “Single” mean in today’s times. Not much, although people do remind me how horrible it is going to be when i am old and everyone else is dead. No one will be there to take care of me. But, considering the society i live in; the possibility of me taking care of some one else even though i am old is high. Lets imagine, that i do get married and make the sacrifices that i need to make. Then in my old age instead of taking care of myself, i have to take care of my husband too. Now thats make two people burden on myself – me and my husband.

I am not trying to sound selfish, but there’s no guarantee that i ever going to live that long or that my husband will live that long. What if i died, what if he died? Life has no guarantee on its own anyways. So that reasoning of me getting married is out of the door.

Yes i am a attractive, successful and available woman. There is nothing wrong with me as such, although people say i am a bit too realistic in terms of life and mature in thought. Men say my standards are high, i say no they aren’t. i just want a decent human being, who thinks about other people, who has sympathy and good intensions. The good looks also is accountable, but i am not looking out for James Bond or anything. The comments on my single life is that i am that guy who is equivalent to gay (no offense to the gay community).

If i am honest to myself, i feel lonely at times that i should share my life with that special person. However, i haven’t found that guy in my life that i would sacrifice everything for. Maybe he i out there, maybe not. But i can only hope that he finds me soon because i cannot explain to people on why i chose to stay single for the last 4 years.

Survival

There a lot of articles on how people have survived their illness and the effect of that on various members of their loved ones.

There are very few blogs from the loved ones on to explain their anguish on seeing their loved ones in pain and suffering. Its heart breaking, frustrating and disheartening when you see that a member of your family is going through something that you cannot do anything about.

My brother Omar has been plagued with illness since he was born, premature at birth, cerebral palsy, hard of hearing and heart disease. But even with all of this, he has a heart of a lion. Omar has been the loved one in our family forever. And our world came crashing down when he was diagnosed with a rare immune disorder – SLE. I never heard of it in my life, but when i was first told about it, the only thing i could do is google to figure out what it is.

I realized very quickly that i am not going to cry, panic and blame this entire universe including God to put a child through some thing like this. So i have decided that i am going to give him the best that this life has to offer.

 

……..and this is my daily struggle and effort to make the best of everything that life throws at me.

 

 

What am “I” about ??

Have you told yourself “Why me” …

But what if you said ‘Bring it on’ ‘I am ready’

It is never about how life treats us, but more on how we treat life. Forget thinking that this life is supposed to be a “happily ever after”. That exists only in fairy tales and movies, life is supposed to be up, down, left, right, criss cross etc etc.

and thats what this blog is about.

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