The answer is “Prayer”

Life is unpredictable. But, then if it wasn’t wouldn’t it be boring.

I got my calling a few years back, it wasn’t something i was looking for but it just ordained upon me. My path to enlightenment was not easy, but whatever i gained on the way to my path was precious.

Before i turned 25, i understood the basic concepts of life. I felt  privileged that i did not have to go around my entire adult life waiting to understand what my life was about.

I have so far concluded on the following :

1. This world is going to be a test, a test of my patience, of my well being of my endurance, of my strength. Its just a path that God has laid down upon me and i am supposed to walk through the path with faith, hope and love.
2. There will be nothing in your life that will not make sense. Everything that is happening to you or has happened to you is because its for you to reach a ultimate goal. Your destiny is pre-determined, you just have to go through some rather shitty things to get it.
3. Everything that you have, is to earned. You are not born privileged, Don’t act like one. If you want something to last, earn it, own it and be proud of it.
4. Love is something that is a blessing from God. So are other emotions like compassion, honesty, passion etc. You have them in your heart as a sign of blessing. You will see many people walking around on this earth, and they do not feel pain when someone is hurt, they hurt other people instead, they are cruel to animals, anything negative in life which you have in your heart is also a test. If you do not have belief, you will continue to have the wrong things in your life.
5. Everything in this world is temporary. We always remember the extreme things in our lives,  the happiness and the grief. Both are temporary and fade over time. So, when your happy; Pray for thankfulness and that the happiness in your life stays for a long time. When your grieving or sad, that is also temporary and it will fade over time. Today might be the worst day of your life. But, tomorrow its going to be better. Because nothing is permanent and change is inevitable.
6. Whatever you do in life, especially when you are unfair or when you do the wrong things in life, you have to answer to them some day or other. Your life is going to be a mix of good and bad. For every good deed, you will be rewarded. For every bad deed, believe me you will pay for it.
7. Be nice to people, coz thats the only way you can change the world.

So far, thats all i can remember. I use them with the people i mentor in their every day life. Do you have any that i can add above. Do share in comments.

Its been a good week. Praying that it gets better every day from now….

 

 

 

Aging

I am the middle child of my parents, and yes i do have the “middle child syndrome”.

Yes, that actually exists. But currently it does not matter which number child i am. What matters is that i love my parents. Like any other child, what matters is the love i have for them like any other child.

Many times we forget that as we are growing older, your parents are getting older too. And with that comes the added complications of sickness. Health issues related to their age. Recently, i have been scared of losing my parents to illnesses, i am getting nightmares about it. And i have no idea what to do about them.

I would not know what to do if i lost any of my parents, since they are the pillars of who i am. I am paranoid, but i love them too much to lose them.

So every single day i pray to God, Please give my parents good health and a long life. Make me capable to take care of them, let them have no hardships in the remainder of their life. That’s all i ask.

I have been blessed to have a loving childhood, a stable home, loving parents. Those things are rare at this time in the world. So if you have what i had, you are truly blessed.

Money, jobs, friends, partners will come and go. But the true values that your parents instill in you will never go, they might fade but they will never disappear.

 

 

 

“Social Media”

“We see, what we seek out”.

Recently, i was pretty hurt by someone making a certain judgement about me being materialistic. And this was on a social media platform, which irked me even more. It bothered me because thats not what i was trying to portray or even hint about. The comment was not even by a stranger but by a friend who i have known for years. His judgement of me was completely wrong and it showed me in bad light in front of people who i knew personally and professionally.

I have been very careful with what i post on social media, its usually about my life or my experiences or about other people’s experience. I have been subject to some snid remarks on them that i preach way too much. Probably i do, but its more towards a positive approach to life than negative. Through out social media, no matter what  you post, you will see certain people make offensive, derogatory or even sexist remarks. But, why would people do that ? Do they know you or what are they actually seeing. Thats when another person’s perception comes in. They see what they want to see, although thats not what you are supposed to see. Many people post selfies, but people are more interested in the background of the selfie than the person itself. They find faults and errors, so that it makes them feel better. Because currently everyone seems to be interested in bringing people down than helping anyone go up.

Insecurities rule, Power rules, Money corrupts, Greed prevails.

People might end spend their entire life in ignorance, whereas some are enlightened at some point in their life, some earlier and some later. In an era where everything is so connected, you can spread Light around you or darkness, Its your choice.

You have a right to your opinion, as long as that opinion is a constructive feedback its fine. Most countries talk about right of speech which is the 1st amendment right, but there should be a line drawn. People misuse that right and say whatever they want without realizing what is the effect of their words. That is ignorance, not free speech.

My mother always emphasized on the quote:

“If you have something good to say, please share. If your going to say something bad, please shut up”.